Mel Collie


How Stress Stops You From Seeing.

It's only human to worry about what other people think of you.

When it stops you from being you, then that is when it really becomes a problem.

When it stops you from being creative, when it holds you back,it can affect your self esteem, you end up second guessing yourself so then you procrastinate..

It becomes a barrier to “seeing”.

When you spend time being totally wrapped up in your self, worrying about the responsibilities you have, the family, the mortgage, the car, the job, deadlines... you are limiting "seeing"

From an anatomy point of view, you have a central nervous system, its like a tree that has 2 branches, one branch is responsible for rest, repair and digest, the other branch is all about fight, flight or freeze.

We often find we get stuck in the latter which is fight, flight or freeze..

No longer having to run away from danger as we used to when we were cavemen, we now face it, and have to carry on with life, stress sits around making us feel worse, we procrastinate and get stuck, worry, feel anxious, worry some more and numb that with external things like sugar, alcohol, watching TV, smoking, Facebook, twitter...these then become addictive.

Stress doesn't kill you, its your reaction to it thats the issue.

The same as your reaction to what others think of you, it either really bothers you, or you can notice it, and change your perspective.

Practicing letting go is like practicing photography, you are only going to get used to the camera settings, the new lens, how to edit or a new technique when you practice it regularly.

The famous painter Monet said “ In order to see, we must first forget the name of the thing we are looking at.”

Thats a great place to start.

Recognise that we label everything.

Then next time you are out with your camera, stop labelling...stop thinking of a tree as a tree, or a leaf as a leaf, or the waves as waves, or hot as hot, or cold as cold.

Even stop thinking of likes and dislikes - " I wont take a picture of that tree because I don't like it". Why don't you like it, what is it exactly, is it colour, shape, height, lack of branches, shape? What would change if there was no like or dislike?

See the form instead, the shapes, the patterns.


See the familiar objects differently, so your eyes don't just pass over them and dismiss them.

Practice seeing, around the home, in the garden, on a walk, you don't have to go very far. You could start by restricting yourself to being aware of just one room in your house.

The light changes on the ceiling, the shadows dancing on the wall, the texture in barefeet, the rain on the window, the colour changes at different times of day, the flowers in the vase, the lines of the ceiling where it meets the walls.

It takes practice.

Mel Collie

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