Mindful Photography
Mindful Photography
For women who learned to put themselves last.
Recovering people-pleasers
Finding calm, presence, and self-connection
Through tiny pauses & mindful photography
WEEKLY BLOG POSTS.
WEEKLY BLOG POSTS
Its not you , its your nervous system
The Role Of Quiet And Alone Time
People who appear calm, aren't magically better at coping. They protect their quiet.
All of us need a break from stimulation, breaks from noise, from being " on" for others.
If you have ever noticed yourself becoming irritated or overwhelmed simply because you have been around people for too long, thats not a personality flaw, its your nervous system asking for space.
Silent time, even short moments, is when the body begins to settle. Its when the nervous system shifts out of survival mode and back towards regulation.
Its when emotions can be processed instead of pushed down.
Without this kind of pause even the most grounded person will struggle.
But with it, your capacity widens, you feel steadier, less reactive, more able to respond rather than rush.
This Is A Practice Not A Personality Trait
So many midlife women are living on a quiet emotional roller coaster.
Not because we are dramatic, or reactive but because our nervous systems are overloaded. Thoughts, responsibilities, other peoples needs, constant stimulation, it all adds up doesn't it!
Learning to regulate emotions doesn't mean becoming numb or unbothered by it all in a detached way. That only makes things worse, it creates feelings of resentment, anger, anxiety and can contribute to gut issues, poor sleep, addictions to numb ourselves even further.
It means allowing emotions to move through you without letting them run the day, but you still feel, you just don't have to act from every feeling.
This is something the nervous system learns through repetition, gently, over time, without forcing or judgement.
It's like training a muscle, but one that grows through safety, not being forced.
Becoming less emotionally overwhelmed isn't something you are or aren't.
It's a somatic state that can be practiced, and when it starts to shift, people often notice, not because you are different, but because you are more settled in yourself.
This is why nervous system regulation , boundaries, and emotional awareness matter, so much, especially in midlife.
Not so we can be better versions of ourselves, but so we can feel safer, calmer and more at home in our bodies.
Mel
P.S. You don't need to feel calm before you begin. The practice meets you where you are.
Join my free February 4 week Calm Practice here if it feels right, and if now isn't the right time, thats OK too. Even reading this can be a pause.
If you would love to donate towards my work, if my words resonate, please click here to donate a coffee
Thank you for being here
Its not you , its your nervous system
The Role Of Quiet And Alone Time
People who appear calm, aren't magically better at coping. They protect their quiet.
All of us need a break from stimulation, breaks from noise, from being " on" for others.
If you have ever noticed yourself becoming irritated or overwhelmed simply because you have been around people for too long, thats not a personality flaw, its your nervous system asking for space.
Silent time, even short moments, is when the body begins to settle. Its when the nervous system shifts out of survival mode and back towards regulation.
Its when emotions can be processed instead of pushed down.
Without this kind of pause even the most grounded person will struggle.
But with it, your capacity widens, you feel steadier, less reactive, more able to respond rather than rush.
This Is A Practice Not A Personality Trait
So many midlife women are living on a quiet emotional roller coaster.
Not because we are dramatic, or reactive but because our nervous systems are overloaded. Thoughts, responsibilities, other peoples needs, constant stimulation, it all adds up doesn't it!
Learning to regulate emotions doesn't mean becoming numb or unbothered by it all in a detached way. That only makes things worse, it creates feelings of resentment, anger, anxiety and can contribute to gut issues, poor sleep, addictions to numb ourselves even further.
It means allowing emotions to move through you without letting them run the day, but you still feel, you just don't have to act from every feeling.
This is something the nervous system learns through repetition, gently, over time, without forcing or judgement.
It's like training a muscle, but one that grows through safety, not being forced.
Becoming less emotionally overwhelmed isn't something you are or aren't.
It's a somatic state that can be practiced, and when it starts to shift, people often notice, not because you are different, but because you are more settled in yourself.
This is why nervous system regulation , boundaries, and emotional awareness matter, so much, especially in midlife.
Not so we can be better versions of ourselves, but so we can feel safer, calmer and more at home in our bodies.
Mel
P.S. You don't need to feel calm before you begin. The practice meets you where you are.
Join my free February 4 week Calm Practice here if it feels right, and if now isn't the right time, thats OK too. Even reading this can be a pause.
If you would love to donate towards my work, if my words resonate, please click here to donate a coffee
Thank you for being here