"To lose patience is to lose the battle" Mahatma Gandhi

Patience is not waiting and hoping.

In the online world, which is always changing, I have found that it is staying consistent that is key, while results are still invisible.

It's not easy but this is what has helped...

I find that I have to take action before feeling confident

I am repeating simple actions even when they feel boring

I trust the process whilst still "planting potatoes underground"

Progress in an online business is often delayed, which seems odd, but true when you consider that:

I write social media and these blog posts before people respond

I clarify my message before it sells

I don't need to rush or panic ( thats hard for me !) but I do need to keep showing up, implementing, and adjusting despite the worry that I am not connecting to anyone.

If I stay patent and consistent, my goals ( hopefully) don't become a matter of " if".

Only " when"...

To keep going, one clear step at a time is the focus, that is how momentum is built.

And impatience often leads to an all or nothing cycle:

I push harder

I expect faster results

That doesn't work, so I stop. Back at square one feeling frustrated, burnt out and not helping anyone.

I have learned, though, that the mindset shift isn't to be more patient, it's to remove the pressure from the timeline, and add structure.

1. Measure progress by actions, not outcomes. Showing up 3 times a week counts as success, even if theres tumbleweed and no one reacts.

2. Decide my minimum pace. Not " I will do everything", but " I will do the smallest version I can sustain even on low energy days/weeks "

3. Finish before I even optimise. Stopping often comes from trying to perfect instead of completion.

4. To remind myself: stopping resets momentum. Slow can feel frustrating but stopping is what actually delays results. This is true in many walks of life like going on a diet, starting a Pilates class as a beginner, practicing a new creative activity like 7 days of calming, de stressing mindful photography.

5. If you are a people pleaser, in recovery or not, we tend to want to do it all, and fix everything, all at once, or we feel like we have failed, done a bad job & let people down. However, its exactly the opposite. Showing up, even if its 2 posts a week, the smallest frequency that still moves the needle, is enough. Daily isn't necessary, only exhausting.

Slow and steady works only when its steady, thats my reminder to myself.

It's not a sprint.

Slow steady , boring consistency is what builds trust. No trends. No pressure to be clever.

I don't need more intensity, just fewer stops!

Mel

x

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